Hello lovely reader. Thanks for stopping by.
With Valentine’s Day coming up, I thought I’d share a simple-yet-classic idea for a Valentine’s Day LBD like it’s NBD. The reason the little black dress is so popular is because everyone can pull of this look in a classy and form-flattering way. I’ve had this dress for several years now, and it’s served me well. I love the little lace detail on the sleeves. As for the shoes, I’m honestly not a big shoe girl. I like to keep my shoes simple, usually wearing wedges, boots, or sandals, depending the season. A tan wedge basically goes with everything and is easy for every day. Lately, I’ve been wearing dangles instead of stud earrings because I like how it can gently dress up a look with a feminine touch.
While it’s on your mind, I also thought I’d share a few pieces of relationship advice as it relates to *gasp* Valentine’s Day.
1) If you’re single, release your timeline if you have one.
Timelines for anything personal development related can create a lot of stress. Let it go. The best thing you can do if you’re single and would like to be in a relationship is to be intentional instead of pushy. Even if you’re not pressuring a guy directly, your timeline creates pressure, which prolongs your goal. Guys can easily pick up on what you want, and as he’s setting the pace, he needs to feel comfortable and safe in order to move it forward. However, the opposite effect of doing absolutely nothing proactive keeps you in a shell. Once you’re happy and feeling good about yourself, guys pick up on it and try to get your attention. I think sometimes to release your timeline, you just need to expect that good things are going to happen in your life and then you attract a high-quality person as a result of that.
2) Let him pursue you.
For some of us, a guy pursuing you can freak you out. If you get in tune with want you want, and you want to let him in, let him in. Give him a chance. When you get into a pattern of making the first move, you’re sending out a vibe saying that’s what you’re available for. If you’re expecting a guy to make the first move, and that’s your mindset, you need to invite him in through giving him a green light. Be receptive. I know plenty of times we’ve all looked completely unapproachable in a public place- with our headphones on at the gym, quickly making our way through the grocery store, with our nose on our phone at a coffee shop. Remember, being receptive doesn’t say, “I want to marry you,” in the first few seconds. It says, “I would be interested in talking to you.” Think about how you can give him a green light, maybe even a few if you need. If he doesn’t get it, let it go. There are hunters out there who will get it and won’t hesitate.
3) Give a new relationship a try and see if it works. Low pressure.
From observing friends, I think that sometimes experimenting with a new relationship with low expectations is a good move. Just see if it works. If it doesn’t work, see if you can be friends. If you’re not giving it a try, you can’t really know for sure if you’re compatible and will enjoy spending long periods of time together. That being said, experience with the wrong guys can build your character- but I don’t advise going there if you already know.
It’s better to be single than with the wrong person. So just chill if that’s where you’re at. The right one will come when you’re both ready.
If you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they’re yours; if they don’t they never were. – Richard Bach
Shoes: Chinese Laundry